Comment recevoir une critique

Sur tout type de travail et d'activités de la vie quotidienne, de nombreuses critiques sont émises, certaines sont profondes et blessantes nos sentiments, notre culture, tout ce que nous apprécions.

 Par conséquent, il est de la responsabilité de chacun d'apprendre ou de s'apprendre à accepter la critique.

J'ai donc cherché sur Google, cherché des livres et voici ce que j'ai appris et j'espère que cela vous profitera tous. Bonne lecture.

Idée fausse sur les critiques:-

• Les critiques ne sont pas toutes mauvaises.

• Même les bonnes personnes font des critiques ne soyez pas surpris !! da !!

• Dès l'enfance sa critique qui nous a façonnés et nous a donné la chance d'évaluer ce qui est bien ou pas.

• N'ayez pas peur du Crtitisme.

• Les critiques arrivent au moindre moment où vous les attendez, ne soyez pas choqué comme si le monde entier était ébranlé.

• Il existe de nombreuses sources de crédit, quand je dis source, je veux dire intentions.

 Comment recevoir la critique?

• Écoutez ce que dit un critique.

• Don’t be defensive/Mamoranaide - "because", "not so", "that's not the case". 

• if you dont accept criticism the exchange of criticism will continue and the problem will never be solved.!! Accept Critisims and give yourself a break. But this does not mean you Accept the comment ...it means you are open to recieve the comments but to accept or not you need full understanding of the critisim and the realistic situation.

                "「本当に理解したい」「なぜそう言うのか教えてほしい」という態度を示すだけで、相手の攻撃の矢は終わります。それが起こったのです。次の問題の解決に進むことができます" 
"the arrow of the other party's attack will come to an end just by showing the attitude of "I really want to understand" and "I want you to tell me why you say so". That's what happened. You can move on to solving the next problem."
https://www.assertive.org/communication/practice/4.html

• Determine if you agree with the criticism

• Don’t expose myself to criticism from people I don't respect. - Dont response to thoughtless comments ,

• if you are like me i like to  stay creative ,open minded and adventuresome and honest if i feel  defensive and apologetic , i wont maintain those elements.

• Take your time  - count to 5 ,take breath , the rush of blood when we feel attacked creates shortage of oxygen for fraction of second and our brain will activate the subconscious mind ,treat alarm and not the reasonable person in us. So we say things we may regret. so breathing .  I sometimes feel suffocated and if the criticism is in meeting then i feel naked as if everything on me is ripped off.  Always remember that you are always like that but the grace of God is our cover .The social values we give to one another is what give us our identity and makes us human . 

 How to give Critisim?

• Be careful ,think before you point out on others mistakes/or you think are mistakes/

People are in different environmental , social , psychological ,financial, personal, skills wise and in every aspect they come from different perspective . As i always say each person is a planet- whith its own perspective and climate ,circling on thier own orbit  inclined by thier tradition ,favoritism and personal determination. 

• Do not use your status /position as a platform for a licence to freely express criticisms. 

rather its a place for  caring and healing and supporting others in  a gentle manner - he who is given more is expected to have more.

• Know that you don't know everything even if you are expert ,no one in the world knows everything you can indicate from your experience but you can never be sure enough to critique someone to the level that diminish their knowledge ,expertise and innovative adventures or ideas.
• Every time you criticism you are referring to something - make sure that you are not baised by that. 

Bizous !!